4 Things to Stop Feeling Guilty About — For My First-Gen Chulas
Taking up space: You are worthy of being in every room you want to be in. Many of us were taught to make ourselves small to stay “safe” or avoid drawing attention, but you don’t have to hide anymore. It is safe for you to take up space – unapologetically.
Celebrating your wins: You don’t have to hide or downplay your achievements, success, or accolades. You’ve worked so hard for everything you’ve accomplished—and being proud and vocal about your wins doesn’t make you any less humble, no matter what anyone says. When you share your wins, you show other women—especially those who relate to you—that it’s possible for them, too.
Setting boundaries: As first-gen Latinas, many of us grew up learning to prioritize others—our families, our communities, our responsibilities—often at the expense of ourselves. We were taught to be selfless, to be helpful, to keep the peace. But setting boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s self-respect. You are allowed to protect your energy, your time, and your mental well-being without guilt. Saying “no” or choosing yourself doesn’t mean you love your people any less—it just means you’re finally learning to love yourself too. And that’s powerful.
You don’t have to feel guilty for doing things your way. You’re allowed to pave your own path and follow what feels right for you. Not everyone will understand your choices—and that’s okay. As long as they make sense to you, that’s what matters most.
